If you’re trying to have a baby naturally, then you know sex is everything in this case. But if you have trouble conceiving, then baby-making sex might seem tedious especially with the scheduling and myths that surround it. Here are the top baby-making mistakes couples make and how you can avoid them.
Making Sex A Chore
The monthly timing of sex, and having sex only on days that you might ovulate over time might become a chore and quickly becomes a task solely for the purpose of procreating.
Rather, we encourage couples to make their lovemaking enjoyable and intimate. Communicate what you want, try out new sex positions, spend more time during foreplays. Sex is best when you’re both on the same page.
While you at it, keep your sense of humour, we’ve found couples who laugh at themselves often, tend to be closer and less stressed out about their situation. Spice things up, take sex out of your bedroom and get busy in other untouched places around the house.
Set up the mood, take advantage of sight, taste, sound, touch, and smell to heighten the experience. Once you know what you both want, have sex to suit the mood. By switching up your regular sex routine for more exotic positions, baby-making sex becomes an experience rather than just going through the motions.
Not Having Enough Sex
When you’re trying to conceive, it’s important to narrow down the number of times you have sex in order to prevent the risk of burning out. However, this can also pose a problem as not having sex for many days can throw off conception, and you might miss the fertile period. Therefore, it’s ok to have spontaneous sex while paying special attention to the period before and during ovulation. Enjoy the process and share intimate moments with your partner, understanding that this is just a part of your journey towards parenthood. Take time to share your feelings about your sexual connection. In fact, it’s usually a good idea for your relationship to make sure you’re having sex even when you’re not ovulating, so that sex doesn’t simply become an activity simply for conception.
Having Too Much Sex
There’s a common misconception that having sex so many times equals conception. But more isn’t always better and sex every single day may be a problem if your sperm count is low. When it comes to having baby-making sex, other factors come into play. Having sex multiple times during the day and throughout the week could cause physical burn out and turn sexual activities into a chore. To avoid this, narrow down the number of times you have sex while taking into consideration your fertile period.
The Myth About Sex Positions
You have probably heard that, if you are trying to get pregnant, missionary is the best position. Well, this notion is false. It really doesn’t matter what position you decide to have sex in. When a man ejaculates, it takes seconds for the sperm to swim into the cervical mucus, into the fallopian tubes. The position doesn’t matter as long as ejaculation happens as close as possible to the cervix. So, whether or not the man is on top really makes little difference. The good news is baby-making sex only have to be the missionary position, it could be any position you want it to be. Variety may help to improve your sex life, and that can help you cope better with the stress of trying to conceive.
Timing is crucial when it comes to having baby making sex. At the same time, knowing exactly when you are ovulating can be tricky. Most women follow the 14-day rule but cycle lengths vary and ovulation might not occur the same time each month. You can accurately track your period, using the following methods;
- Using a calendar which can be inaccurate sometimes.
- Cervical mucus tracking which requires tracking daily.
- Basal temperature charting is usually paired with cervical mucus method.
- Ovulation test and ovulation predictor kits which are convenient especially if you have an irregular cycle.
Having Sex On the Day of Ovulation
You may think having sex on the day of your ovulation will increase your chances of taking it but waiting until the day you are ovulating may be too late. The sperm can live for up to five days after having sex and so you do not necessarily have to wait until you are ovulating to have sex. It best to have sex a few days prior to ovulation and during an ovulation. It takes just about 24 hours after ovulation for the egg to be fertilized. If you miscalculate when you are ovulating, you’ll have to wait to try again the next month. Because, you have seven potential fertile days each month in which you are more likely to get pregnant from sex.
Before using lubricant ensure that it is sperm-friendly. Most commercial lubricants can adversely affect sperm motility and increase mortality rate, making it harder for the sperm to reach the egg. If you must use a lubricant, it’s advisable to go for a more natural substitute like; olive oil, vegetable oil, baby oil and even egg whites are considerably safer and more effective. If you experience pain during sex, it might be as a result of dryness of the vagina which could be as a result of hormonal imbalance.
Neglecting Your General Health
If you’re trying to conceive, everything matters. It’s important to place close attention to your overall health. Choose healthy lifestyle habits like eating right, drinking enough water, exercising and avoid smoking, stress and taking unhealthy substances. It’s a good idea to have a regular checkup to make sure, your health is at its best and promptly treat any issues that may affect fertility or pregnancy.
Also, taking nutritional supplements are beneficial in both male and female fertility. Supplements can help in boosting the potency, quality and quantity of sperm in men, while in women, they can re-balance your hormones and improve overall health. By eliminating nutritional deficiencies and improving sperm production and mobility you can dramatically increase your chances of getting pregnant.